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10 Perfect Conversation Starters For a First Date

Yes, It can be mentally exhausting going on a date; let alone spending hours arranging one. It’s a risk, and a step outside the much-loved comfort zone.

So in the interests of all our readers still looking for that special someone, we’ve compiled ten natural conversation starters that are all but guaranteed to start a flowing (and hopefully interesting) conversation.

1. Good day?

Let’s start with the basics. Starting a conversation about a cliched topic such as the weather is, of course, a no-no.

It already suggests you’re devoid of ideas and screams unease and a lack of confidence. But playing it safe with a genuine interest in their day allows the conversation to grow organically.

2. The traffic wasn’t too bad, was it?

Dependent on their mode of transportation, asking your date if the traffic was bad or if the train was busy isn’t the worst conversation starter in the world so long as it’s followed up with something interesting.

You could even follow the question up with a funny story about how your face got squashed on the train on the way to work.

3. You look really nice

While best served in moderation, complementing someone (especially women) on a first date shows you appreciate the effort they’ve made while also making it clear you find them attractive.

However, any saccharine language is usually ill-advised. Telling someone they look ‘stunningly beautiful’ or ‘dazzlingly pretty,’ for instance,  is unnecessary and can give off an air of desperation.

4. Any awkward date stories?

After you’ve said hello and found some sought of natural rhythm to the conversation, you can break the ice by asking them if they have any funny date stories they’d like to share.

It can offer light relief to the initial unease of meeting a stranger, and also gives one another a glimpse at their sense of humor.

5. Favourite book/movie of all time?

The wonder of creative entertainment serves billions, not only you, which means conversations around books and shows can quite easily go in an upward direction.

For instance, if you’ve just finished watching an episode of Game of Thrones, ask them about it! Chances are they’ll like it too. It may sound rather generic, but once you have a similar interest, you’ll hopefully feel more at ease.

6. Dogs or cats?

This is always a favorite question. Something along the lines of, “Okay, first things first: cats or dogs?” can quite easily proliferate into a fun and impassioned conversation about likes and dislikes.

You could even ask them if they like cheese….

7. What are you looking for in a relationship?

It may seem like a direct and intimidating question, but with time, it’s necessary for both parties.

Asked correctly, with interest and lightness, it can offer an insight into how that person is, which could save you a lot of time and money.

8. What’s your dream?

Asking someone about their dreams and ambitions is a great way to know someone and gauge how they are in general. You want to know as much as you can on a first date, and one thing we as humans hold dearest is the possibility of our dreams coming true.

So ask! Who knows? Their dreams might even align with yours.

9. What kind of music do you listen to?

Even if you’re not the biggest music aficionado, chances are you probably have a similar playlist with at least one person you date.

So ask them what they think of popular artists like Taylor Swift and Justin Bieber. Again, these are light-hearted questions that can lead to so much more.

10. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be? 

Everyone likes to envisage their ideal location. It offers escape and a chance to romance wistfully about future happenings. So ask! While daunting, a date is an escape from the mundanity of everyday life, so ask them questions associated with dreams and exotic places.

Chances are you’ll then be able to ask follow-up questions. Have you been before? What is it you like about such climates? Would you ever live there?

Remember, a conversation starter is intended to spawn more interesting and in-depth discussions. So take these questions as a starting point for something special. 

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What Women Want: 10 Things Every Man Should Know But Doesn’t

What you need to do is be more in-tune with their wants and requirements. It sounds relatively simple and highly cliched, but as a recent Gallup poll showed, 68% of American men are still single. And even in an age of Tinder and online dating, those are the kind of statistics that would leave even the most ardent of Leonardo DiCaprio-wannabe womanizers worried.

So without further ado, and to hopefully put an end to such miserable statistics, we at Lifehack Lane thought we’d scour the minds of millions of women across the web and offer 10 simple tips that could help you in your quest for love.

1. Chivalry isn’t dead

Whatever you think about feminism and its role in modern-day society, opening the door for your lady friend doesn’t mean you’re going against the notion of female empowerment- far from it. In fact, chivalrous gestures will make you appear respectful, even if you do feel like you’re re-enacting scenes from a Jane Austin novel.

2. Taking care of your appearance isn’t a bad thing

While many guys live their lives in the gym and go home to protein shakes besides their beds telling them how beautiful they are, many men are put off by that image and refuse to be anything but clean-cut. And that’s a great shame as most women will tell you that you don’t need to be a chiselled beefcake to win their hearts. All you need to do is to put in a little bit of effort- and that includes dressing up.

3. Compassion goes a long way

Nobody likes someone who has a heart of stone. Sure, they may at first come across as mysterious and even slightly cool, but if you aren’t willing to sympathise with others you’ll come across as nasty and perhaps even a tad evil.

4. Confidence can be a deal-breaker

Confidence is everything. And if a guy has it in abundance, he’s likely to get a whole lot more attention- regardless of how he looks. And just knowing a woman has someone masculine and confident by her side can make her feel significantly safer.

Still, confidence can quickly turn into arrogance, and that’s what men need to realise. Be proud of your achievements and unwavering ability to converse with all kinds of woman; just don’t start showboating about how great you are in bed.

5. Listen

Admittedly, everyone has heard this before. Listening is everything and blah blah blah. But you’d be lying if you said you’ve listened to every word your ex-partners or one-night stands have said. It can be so easy to be caught up in our minds that we so often pretend to listen when in reality the woman will know right away if you’re taking everything in..

6. Romance is never outdated

Like with chivalry, writing a love letter or doing something sweet and heartfelt will never hurt. Sure, your friends might make fun of you while others may even call you a sentimental human stack of cheese that even Nicholas Sparks wouldn’t touch. But hey, when you really like someone guys, woman want to know that.

7. The little things count

Forgetting birthdays, anniversaries and even their cat’s name can spell trouble. It may sound over-the-top, but these things matter A LOT.

8. Always offer to pay on a first date

If you’ve only just met her, and you decide to go for a meal, then it might be a good idea if you offer to pay. Notice the word ‘offer’. By offering, you’re also giving the woman an opportunity to pay, which is just as important in the long run. If they offer to pay great, then you know they’re a keeper, but still, collect the bill. No matter what modern-day values dictate, it’s been ingrained into our consciences that man must pay, and there’s no point dispelling that myth.

9. Prioritise

All great love requires great sacrifice, and prioritising certain events for your love interest/ admirer is one of the best ways to show you’re serious about them. You might feel guilty for telling the guys you can’t catch the game, but remember the reason for saying no. You have a lovely person in your life, and if they were in your position they would probably do the same. Woman prioritise just as much, and if you aren’t prepared to follow suit, they’ll probably lose interest.

10. Keep it real

If you think you’re into someone, how do you know if it’s love or merely infatuation? Do you want to be in bed with them when you could be out with your friends talking to every Christina and Mary in the state? If you know, then the woman will notice, just like if you’re unsure. So ask yourself this: If I see this woman more than once, will I still want to see other people? If the answer is yes, then there’s no point wasting your time, let alone theirs.

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5 Life Lessons Everyone Should Be Taught

With that in mind, here are 5 simple life lessons that can bring about a sound and healthy mind.

1. You are never too old

When we age, we tend to prioritise the needs of others, whether that be our children, parents, marriage etc.

But while these things are all crucial to living a happy life, it can often mean letting go of your hobbies and dreams. So don’t let commitments stifle your dreams.

Whether you’re an 80-year old who always dreamed of writing a novel, or a 30-year old mother wishing to go back to school, it is never too late.

2. Nothing is impossible

Your thoughts create realities. And that’s a proven fact. Why? Because at one time or other, all these multi-national companies, all-star athletes and inspiring political leaders had nothing but their imagination. And within that imagination came a dream they went out and achieved. It would be wrong, of course, to suggests that all dreams come true, but that’s not to say that your goals won’t.

You may never play alongside Kevin Durant in the NBA, but you could still achieve your dream of becoming a coder for Facebook. After all, if you don’t try, you’ll never get it. Being level-headed is essential, but having no dreams at all can be soul-destroying.

3. Help yourself by helping others

It’s easy to get wrapped up in our own problems. Few have it easy, and chances are you’ll feel that giving your time to someone else sounds overwhelming.

But even taking half an hour out of your day- or even week- to do a good deed, whether that’s volunteering at a soup kitchen or playing games with the elderly at the nearby care home can do wonders to not just them but you too. You’ll see people who are vulnerable, and your empathy will take effect, making you realise that life is short and precious.

4. Not everyone will like you

It’s a truth that even the most likeable people will encounter. People are different, and no matter how gentle and humble you are, others may look at you in a different light. And that’s okay. So long as you believe in yourself and are happy with who you are, then that should be enough.

Nobody’s perfect, but everyone can be kind, which leads nicely onto our final point.

5. Nobody is perfect, but that doesn’t mean you can’t try and be the best possible version of yourself

We focus less on ourselves and more on those who we believe are more desirable. We get intimidated and allow self-doubt to tell us that we should leave our dreams to those more likely to succeed. “Who am I kidding?” many a person has probably bellowed.

So until you realise no dream is stupid, or no part of you is ugly or inadequate, then you’ll never feel satisfied. You’ll never attain perfection, but if you learn to love yourself and go for every opportunity, you’ll feel amazing inside, and your life will open up in ways you never thought possible.

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10 Explanations As To Why Some People Are Happier than Others

Not quite. There is no ‘key’ to happiness. But in their mind at least, they have opened a door where they can see everything for what it is. In the words of a well-known Greek philosopher, ‘Happiness depends on ourselves.’

Here are ten possible explanations for why some people are happier than others.

1. They never take anything for granted

It’s common knowledge that those who value friendship, love and the simpler things in life are often happier.

One only has to look at the demographics of Western economies like America to see that people’s individualistic and financially driven lifestyles have made them more depressed whereas those in developing countries, where there is little modern technology in place, are usually better off emotionally.

2. They’re not materialistic 

While happy people may notice the latest Chanel bag or the shiny new Ferrari Spyder that whizzed down the road, they don’t look at them and feel an innate need to have them.

Their only care is living, not wanting. If you manage to distinguish between the two, then you’ll probably feel just as good as they do.

3. They are ambitious

While living care-free can be a positive sign of one’s happiness, many living that lifestyle lack any long-term plans and instead turn to partying and wild nights of debauchery.

The happy-go-lucky types, however, may seem carefree, but they also know what they want in life. The difference between these two types may be subtle, but it’s crucial.

4. They value living in the moment

On the other hand, those with grand plans and big ideas can still feel bogged down and dissatisfied with life for not seeing their dreams come true.

However, those that are ambitious, but who value the now, rather than solely looking ahead are often happier. They know they are doing their best for a better future, but at the same time, they know the future is unpredictable and to neglect the present would be naive.

5. They say yes

Saying yes isn’t the answer to your problems, but it can help. You don’t have to revert to Jim Carrey’s character in “Yes Man”, but by saying yes more times than you say no, you’ll likely find yourself in some cool scenarios.

Some things will backfire, leading you to have wished you said no, but by saying no all the time, you are putting a wall up to living.

6. They experiment 

You may be one of those people who always order the same thing in a restaurant. Or never goes to another holiday destination because the place you went to last year was ‘ just fine.’ By doing that, though, you are restricting yourself to new flavours, sights, and sounds.

Those who constantly want to switch things up, however, and try new things are happier and usually lead more prosperous lives.

7. They value the importance of the self and aren’t always worrying about pleasing others

Happiness shouldn’t be confused with kindness. Sometimes, being happy requires a bit of self-interest to preserve your wants and needs. For instance, if you wanted to write a novel and get it published, chances are you won’t be too fussed telling your friends you can’t see them for a while.

Even those who end relationships at the drop of a hat, while appearing mean, are merely following their needs to be happy and not waste their life being with someone they don’t want to be around.

8. They don’t set unrealistic standards 

In a world increasingly built on material success, you can be forgiven for falling privy to the flawed notion that success equates to wealth and beauty. But if you see past these shallow desires, and look into the inner-beings of someone, you’ll have a whole new outlook on life.

Of course, it can be easier said than done, and happy people who don’t need material possessions aren’t always the happier than people who are rich.

Usually, though, they are far more at one with themselves that those who pursue the most expensive cars and the most ‘attractive’ partners.

9. They value the importance of downtime

You can be ambitious and go-getting without working every minute of the day. It’s important to have fun, regardless of how badly you want your life to be in the future. You don’t have to work hard and play even harder, but you should let go once in a while.

If you consume yourself in something for too long, it turns into an obsession that can sometimes have adverse effects on the project/goal.

10. They don’t dwell on the past

Looking back isn’t best advised, and while you can learn from the past, you can never replicate it.

So let go off heartbreaks and unsavoury memories. Enjoy what you have, and you’ll soon find yourself dancing like a 1969 Woodstock hippie every day of the week.

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9 Of The Best Compliments You Could Ever Give Someone

But while being on the receiving end of a compliment can make our day and make us feel beautiful and unique, complimenting others can be just as rewarding. So whether it’s that stressed waiter or a friend in need of a bit of love, here are nine simple but powerful compliments that can brighten anybody’s day.

1. You have amazing eyes

Eyes are seen as the gateway to the soul and having a pair of prepossessing eyes is quite the physical attribute.

Thus, if you see someone with eyes that set the room alight in a dazzling glow of wonder, then tell them just that! Chances are they’ll look themselves in the mirror after you’ve said that and smile.

2. You’re so talented 

If your boyfriend is a gifted writer, who has dreams of being published, tell him he writes well, and that he must never give up.

Or if your girlfriend is a dancer, make sure you tell her that her performance ‘took your breath away,’ or that she’s ‘destined for the top.’ Sometimes, with a celebratory and jovial tone, the compliment can sound more sincere and genuine. So say it like you mean it!

3. You work harder than anyone I know

This compliment should be given with enthusiasm and pure sincerity. After all, it’s a cliched praise, but when used correctly, it can be one of the most satisfying things you’ll hear all day.

For instance, if a cleaner is working overtime and mopping the floors like her life depended on it, tell her to take a quick break, place your arm on their shoulder and say, ‘Yoy work harder than anyone I know.’ It can be applied to any job or discipline, or to any friend/lover/family member working their butt off to succeed.

4. You’re the nicest person I know 

Being told you’re ‘nice’ isn’t always deemed as a compliment, but worded correctly, and it can be one of the most genuine compliments about somebody’s character.

‘You’re the nicest person I’ve ever met’ or ‘You’re full of kindness” are just some of many compliments about someone’s character that can make them feel a million bucks.

5. Where did you get those shoes?

This applies to men as well as women. Why? Because shoes are usually the first piece of clothing apparel we notice, and if we like what we see, then we should tell them that their choice to purchase x item was the right one as they look fabulous.

Or if you’re a guy, tell your friend their new sneakers are cool. It’s a simple compliment, but one which makes us feel secure in our appearance.

6. You look incredibly striking

As humans, we get judged on our appearance almost every day. So what better way to ease someone’s insecurities than by complimenting their looks? As a rule of thumb, avoid adjectives like beautiful, pretty and handsome.

They can be cliched, and their usage can be underwhelming. Instead, opt for other words that you wouldn’t say every day. Striking, modelesque and stunning are just some of the many alternatives.

7. You would make a great father/mother

Couples in a relationship often say this to one another in the faith and acknowledgement that they can see each other raising children in a safe environment. But even if you’re out with your friends, it’s worth telling them that they would make a great parent.

After all, being a father/mother is one of the best things you can be in life, so to have someone tell you’re up for the job is a positive affirmation that every kind person should be told.

8. You make me want to be a better person

Telling someone you admire that their way of doing things has made you want to better yourself will reinforce that what they’ve been doing has been worth it and hasn’t gone unnoticed.

It’s a compliment that affirms someone’s goodness, and one that can radically change someone’s opinion of themselves forever.

9 Others could learn from you

We all like being valued and respected, and if you notice that someone has raised the bar in what they do, then tell them! It shows you recognize their dedication and talent, and that you respect the work they are doing.

They’ll feel ten times better for hearing a compliment of that magnitude, and it will hopefully motivate them to spur on others.

 

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5 Things You Can Do In The Office To Speed Up Time

Here are five such things that will put an end to your clock-watching days in the office.

1. Take walks

It won’t hurt you to take a five-minute break and regather your energy and focus. Better still, if you pass a nice coffee shop, why not pop in and order a hot beverage? That way, you’ll have something to consume that feels nice and distracts you from the boredom at hand.

And before you know it you’d have had a lovely walk, drank a comforting coffee and started on your next piece of work. Remember, taking regular breaks has been scientifically proven to boost productivity, so don’t feel guilty for not being able to sit still for hours on end!

2. Strike up a conversation with a colleague 

Talking about work-related matters can fast become irritating and can leave you wanting to isolate yourself. But by doing that and not engaging with others, you’re forcing yourself into a corner of boredom where interaction is few and far between.

Instead, make it a habit of striking up regular conversations with a colleague nearby. It doesn’t have to be about work. In fact, it could be about anything, from the American presidential elections to what Britney Spears was wearing at last night’s VMA’S.

3. Listen to music 

Unless your boss is mean, most bosses let you used your headphones providing you get the job done. However, this can also lead to boredom and procrastination if you have nothing new to listen to.

If that’s the case, stream your favourite album and absorb all the lyrics. More often than not we miss the important meanings behind them.

4. Write a bucket list

Sometimes, when the days are slow, and there’s little work to do, it can be tempting to sneak on Facebook or Youtube for a few minutes. But don’t. Not only do you risk looking unprofessional but it is also something you will likely do hours later at home.

Instead, create a bucket list file on your computer and every time you find yourself bored and with little to do, think of things to add to it.

5. Respond to old emails

Once you forget to reply to emails, you can end up with a deluge of them that can eventually leave you feeling stressed and overwhelmed. So get in the habit of responding to them and craft new ones as well.

You’ll feel organised, gain more respect and best of all, it can be something that quickly turns a slow period of the day into a productive one.

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10 Habits That Can Make You Unlikable

Likeability, is, after all, an incredibly popular adjective, and a trait we all look for in human beings, so when people’s bad habits slip into their daily routine, it can get on many people’s nerves. Here are 10 habits that can make you unlikeable.

1. Talking about yourself

Self-indulgence is a trait no one wants to come across because it takes away any value you might have and is placed in the hands of someone who thinks their life is more worthy than yours.

However, that person might actually be you. And while we are by no means dismissing your right to talk, if you don’t let anyone else speak, and aren’t prepared to show much interest in the person you are projecting your feelings and problems onto, it’s unlikely they are going to appreciate what you have to say.

2. Being too serious

While people are drawn to the passionate, creative and ambitious, it can be a bit jarring if they only talk about their work and refuse to have fun and entertain doing anything non-work related.

Life is too short to simply focus on your work and nothing else. Falling in love, forging great friendships, and enjoying being alive, are, in the grander scheme of things, far more important.

3. Always being late

Being late is something we’re all guilty of at times, but those who are late on a daily basis become incredibly irritating to the people kept waiting. It is inconsiderate and rude to agree on a time and then turn up 30 minutes later.

Tardiness just isn’t attractive, least of all to employers, so unless you’re a rock star, it’s better to keep a better track of time if you want to keep friends on your side and remain in a job.

4. Bragging

When we achieve something we’re proud of, it can be natural for us to become braggadocious and air our accomplishments on social media, even if our intentions are good-willed.

Masking your attributes and talents by downplaying them and fishing for compliments is equally as nauseating and an insult to people’s intelligence. In fact, they will see right through you, and instead of letting the accomplishments speak for themselves, they will go off that person and see them as a narcissist and bragger instead of a successful person.

5. Always being on your phone 

Smartphones are a prevalent part society, so much so that you’ll see at least a dozen people looking down at their phones rather than at their natural surroundings. While this is somewhat acceptable when alone, staring at your phone with other people is incredibly rude, and can make that person feel as though they are not worthy of your attention.

It’s immature and rude, and if you still find yourself scrolling through your Instagram feed when you’re at dinner with a friend or partner, then you should really try and get out of this habit before your friends start to lose their cool with you.

6. Name-dropping

Telling people you know a famous face or two is fine, but if the name-dropping persists, it can show an evident lack of insecurity on the part of the name-dropper that they are not comfortable enough with their own life and accomplishments.

People instantly recognize those who are begging for attention, and while it may be innate in you to whittle off dozens of stories about the time you teed off with Tom Brady, it’s best not to overindulge people in stories that merely involved a famous name.

7. Gossipping 

Despite gossiping being a habit we generally consider to take place in the school playground, adults are just as guilty of it, and many aren’t afraid to bitch about their colleagues to fellow workers and friends.

While it may seem harmless, it can highlight the insincere nature of the individual doing the gossiping. Even those partaking in the gossip will realize this and be afraid to confide in that person for fear of having their confidential conversation compromised. If you’ve become a bit of a gossip yourself, learn to take the moral high ground and stop doing it altogether. You’re not 12-years-old anymore.

8. Being an oversharer

It’s good to confide in people you trust and let them know about the issues bothering you. After all, we are human beings and should learn to show compassion to those in need and who want to vent their feelings to others. However, if the person makes a habit of oversharing every detail of their life, it can become draining for those expected to listen, and in time, they may be less inclined to help that person.

It sounds harsh, but some people are often unaware that other people have problems too, and to continually air them to the world can come across as slightly self-absorbed.

9. Closing yourself off from others

Many of us do this when life gets too much. We might even suffer from anxiety or become so stressed with our work and personal life that we corner ourselves off from most people just to get through the day.

This isn’t something to be ashamed of by any means, but it does pose a problem further down the line when others become increasingly annoyed at your inability to be a team player in the office or reply to social invitations. People who stick to themselves can also tend to think only for themselves, and not entertain the opinions of others.

10. Being negative

Negativity can manifest itself into a state of perpetual misery not just for the person airing their grievances, but also those around them. We all have bad days and are allowed to feel down in the dumps, but if you are always in a constant state of doom and gloom and get off on being a bit of a masochist, then you should at least keep your negativity to yourself.

If you don’t, others around you will grow resentful, and invitations to social events and networking meetings will wane.

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10 Things You Can Do In A Waiting Room To Speed Up Time

The human brain needs to be engaged, and there can be nothing worse than having nothing to do for hours on end. However, if come prepare for the worst, waiting needn’t ruin your day.

Here are 10 easy ways you can cure boredom in dreaded waiting rooms and queues.

1. Always bring a book with you

If you know you will be waiting for most of the day, we strongly advise you bring a book with you before you leave the house. By anticipating the immense boredom that comes with waiting in uninspired places, you’ll be able to get lost in a book for hours.

Depending on how long your wait is, you could even bring two or three if you quickly get bored with your current read.

2. Download your favorite Netflix shows

Netflix shows can be a godsend- especially if you aren’t a bookworm. However, most of us use the service to stream episodes, but you can also download entire series so long as you have a reliable wifi connection.

If you make a habit of doing this, you’ll never be bored in public again.

3. Carry a portable charger 

Portable chargers are god’s gift to smartphone addicts. Retailing at around $20 upwards, they are inexpensive and easy to use and can quench boredom when we find ourselves waiting indefinitely.

That said, if you don’t have a series of shows or a good playlist already downloaded, you’ll probably use up a significant amount of data, so it’s a good idea to download your media- otherwise, you’ll come out of the waiting room feeling even more resentful.

4. Talk to other people

Breaking news: Human interaction still exists. It may seem daunting talking to a complete stranger, but if you open up, it will probably lead to an exciting and fulfilling conversation.

Jury waiting rooms are great for this. You come across a broad spectrum of society, from bankers and hedge fund bosses to cleaners, and the unemployed, so make the most of the situation. That’s what life is all about, after all.

5. Listen to your favorite album

If your favorite artist has recently released their new album on Spotify, or you’re simply a massive music fan with a host of albums already on your phone, bide your time by devouring the music.

The lyric website Genuis.com has detailed annotations for most lyrics, which might be interesting if you’ve picked up on things you otherwise wouldn’t have when on the go.

6. Make sure you’re wearing comfortable clothing 

Comfortable clothing is must in waiting rooms. It can be the difference between catching a much-needed snooze or feeling irritable all day.

If you think you might face delays or know you will be waiting around, come prepared and wear loose-fitted clothing rich in soft fabrics and light materials.

7. Make a to-do list

Life makes us forget things. Work is hectic, and when we get home, we are met with household chores that are so overwhelming we usually retire to the sofa and forget about them. That’s why a to-do list is the most productive thing you can do in a waiting room.

All you need is a piece of paper and a pen, and you’re good to go. It’s equally as annoying as waiting, but you’ll feel better for doing it, and at least your brain will be engaged.

8. Write a letter to someone you love

Waiting around gives us time to assess things in life, and more often than not, we will think of someone who means a lot to us. It could be a current partner or spouse, or even an ex you really miss. Whatever it is, let your emotions pour forth as you wax lyrical about what makes them special.

Letters are increasingly becoming outdated, but they hold an emotional weight than an email or card, doesn’t and receiving one can be incredibly flattering.

9. Go through your emails

No one likes to go open a deluge of emails from companies they’ve forgotten to unsubscribe from, so filtering the essential emails from the ones that are merely junk will save you a lot of time next time you open your email box.

You might even stumble across something important you might not have previously noticed from a business client or friend, so it’s always useful to sift through your emails every once in a while- even if you’re not waiting anywhere.

10. Assess your finances

Another boring facet of life, tax returns, bills and payment renewals can be mind-numbing and tedious, but if you’re waiting around all day and haven’t anything else to do, why not get the boring stuff out of the way?

It has to be done eventually, and the last place you want to be doing that kind of stuff is in a house full of distractions, so use your boredom constructively and time really will be on your side.

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10 Apps That Will Radically Change Your Life

Of course, with well over 2m apps to choose from, finding the right apps can be tricky, so we’ve dug around and come up with 10 of the most life-changing apps currently available to iOS users.

1. MoneyBox

How many of us spend $3.50 a day on coffee? Or $5.60 on a burrito at lunch? With time now being a luxury to many people, finding time to cook meals and bring in our own coffee isn’t always as easy as people make out, but MoneyBox aims to rectify this by rounding up your spending and depositing the remaining cash into a savings account.

By rounding up purchases to the nearest dollar (or whatever currency you use), you’ll be surprised by how much money can be saved in one calendar year.

2. iStone Travel Translation

Another translation app but this one has more specific phrases for certain situations so you know exactly what to say depending on the setting.

Available on iOS but not yet Android, iStone Travel Translation is ideal for those wanting to embrace a new language and immerse themselves in the new culture they find themselves apart of.

3. Pacifica 

Pacifica is an app which helps anxiety sufferers cope with their condition. It’s free, but for just $3/month and $30/year, you can have access to every one of the app’s relaxation and mindfulness audio tools.

If money is tight, the free version still includes the daily mood and physical health tracker features. There’s also a relax feature, which lists a variety of different exercises that can help you with your anxiety as well as a team of online therapists available at the finger of a button.

4. Noizio

A favorite with students, Nozio is there to take the revision blues away and help enhance the brain’s ability to concentrate by offering many calming audio sounds such as “blue whales,” “deep space,” and “October rain.”

If your studying days are long behind you, Noizio’s calming sounds can also be used as a makeshift sleeping device.

5. Nike Training Club

Billed as your ‘ultimate personal trainer’, Nike Training Club is a brilliant app that takes you through over 100 workouts for all areas of the body. The recipient of the Clio award for the most interactive app, users can also go through a series of exercises from famous athletes.

For instance, soccer superstar and Nike athlete Cristiano Ronaldo has his own abs workout on the app. If that isn’t enough of a motivation to download this app and get in shape, we don’t know what is.

6. Headspace

From one personal trainer to another…. Well, kind of. Described as a “personal trainer for your brain”, Headspace intends to use the power of meditation as a tool to spur creativity, focus, happiness, and other fields of your life. Designed with beautiful illustrations, the ambient lighting of this app is just as calming as the exercises.

Like Pacifica,  Headspace can help with stress and anxiety. That said, this app isn’t cheap, but a 10-day free trial may convince you.

7.  Bookling

How many have us read nowadays? Not many, and even if we’re lovers of literature, the chances of us being able to read as much as we’d like in an era of long working hours isn’t easy, so luckily we have apps like Bookling to encourage us to keep reading!

In short, Bookling allows you to track your reading progress over time by making you keep a log of all the books you’ve read without other users judging your reading tastes like Goodreads allows.

8. Tinder 

Beleive it or not, Tinder can also be life-changing if you’re looking for more than just a hookup! For the uninitiated, Tinder is an online dating app which claims to match hundreds of millions of users a day. Devised by a handful of young Los Angeles natives, Tinder matches users by showing you profiles within a nearby radius.

If you like what you see, you swipe right. If you don’t, you swipe left. If two users both swiped right, it’s a match, and you can message in private. It’s a fun and novel way of meeting a partner, and in many ways, Tinder has taken the pressure off people having to rely on nights out to meet people.

9. Roadtrippers

Showing up points of interest along your route of travel or just your current location, Roadtrippers provides information on waypoints and landmarks that mean you can take a diversion and discover the area you are travelling through.

Perfect for road trips where you want to discover new and exciting things, not only does it tell you about what is in the area but also provides directions and reviews so you can decide what takes your fancy.

10. Tab

We’ve all be there. The meal has been fabulous. The time with our friends has been even better. But then there’s the bill! If one person pays for it, it’s a straightforward transaction. But half a dozen? That’s when it becomes stressful.

Luckily, the code boffins at Tab have developed a highly innovative app that merely involves taking a photo of the bill and having the contents automatically divided by however many people are paying.

Tab also allows each person to tap their item/s if people aren’t willing to pay the same amount. Multiple people can also split a communal dish.  How good is that?!

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10 Everyday Addictions You Probably Don’t Know You Have

To help identify whether you might have a problem, here are ten everyday habits that people often get hooked on.

1. Dating

Dating is a part of life most single people go through in their quest for true love, but in recent years, the commodification of dating has become dangerously extreme, and dating apps like Tinder have been a major cause of this problem.

Endemic to a significant portion of millennials, the number of choices presented to us means we often dismiss people based on their appearance and filter our options to those that we think are our ideal matches. But in reality, this constant picking and choosing of human beings can make you forget they are actually people and not sweets in a candy store. It can be liberating to know we have more choice, but if you become accustomed to this behavior, you may never be satisfied.

2. Sex

Sex addiction used to be viewed with ridicule and scorn, but in recent years celebrities like Russell Brand and David Duchovny have been open about their struggles which may have made others feel less ashamed coming forward. In fact, around 8 percent of men and 3 percent of women are affected by sex addiction.

In many cases, these individuals suffer from an existential feeling of hopelessness and find it hard to commit to just one person, so cope with the issue by seeking instant gratification in a series of sexual encounters, often spawned from one night stands or a dependency to pornography.

3. The Internet 

You’re reading this article and probably have at least a dozen other tabs open, but you’re not addicted to the Internet, are you? Well, maybe you are. Typically, Internet addiction is described as a compulsive disorder, and in an age of quick-fix likes and social validation platforms like Instagram offer, people can depend on this behavior on a daily basis. If this sounds like a pattern you have gotten into, then you might want to alter the amount of time you spend on your phone and laptop.

For instance, if you find yourself unable to concentrate on anything else when your phone isn’t within touching distance, then it could help to incorporate a new routine into your life, such as switching it off an hour before you go to bed.

4. Gambling

A flutter on the horses every once in a while is a harmless bit of fun, but for those with addictive tendencies, the rush of a win can prove destructive in the long-run. Without playing to age-old tropes, the house really does win, and casinos and betting shops are deliberately designed to rope punters in with free bets in the hopes they get a winning feeling and return as often as possible.

Unsurprisingly, gambling is one of the most destructive addictions, and studies have shown that the rush gambling spawns lights up the same parts of the brain as drugs, and as such the addiction is treated with the same kind of therapy.

5. Shopping

Retail therapy can be a great way to treat yourself after a hard day or fix your low self-esteem, but in an increasing number of cases, addiction to shopping (especially online shopping) is becoming more and more endemic.

While experts prefer to label it an impulse control disorder, the fact that so many retailers offer their goods online means all you need to do is open a laptop and punch in your credit card details. This is an instant form of gratification that we feel will make us feel better, but like with anything, moderation is key, and if you find yourself with a closet full of unworn items, you may want to work on a plan to help combat this needless spending.

6. Video games

Video games aren’t only the preserve of school children and spotty teens. The adult gaming industry is a lucrative business with online games like Fortnite now paying professional gamers thousands of dollars in competitive gaming fees, and with such lucrative prizes, you can see why people devote an unhealthy amount of time to their favorite video games.

In fact, research has found that 1 in 10 video gamers between the ages of 8-18 are “out-of-control” gamers, while many adults, especially in places like Japan where gaming culture is almost a religion, are suffering from a lack of social confidence.

7. Work

Yes, work addiction is real, so real, in fact, that people have been known to run themselves into the ground with exhaustion in the hopes of a pay rise and pleasing their bosses.

If this sounds like you, then learn to take a backseat in the office and remember that a job should never define you. It’s what you do five days a week, and it likely won’t be something you think of on your deathbed.

8. Cigarettes

Compared to any other drug, tobacco has the highest amount of addicts and causes more deaths than any other addiction.

But despite numerous efforts from different governments to put people off tobacco through increased taxes, and placing warning images on packets, smokers find it difficult to give up their addiction and it remains one of the hardest habits to give up.

9. Food

Since the emergence of supermarkets and fast food chains, obesity in the Western world has become a significant problem. In America alone, 3 percent of adults are affected by obesity, and countries such as Tonga and Kuwait are experiencing similar issues.

If you feel guilty after eating abnormal amounts of food, or can’t control your eating binges, then you might have a problem, especially if you eat for reasons unrelated to appetite.

10. Risky Behavior

While it can be cool and commendable to engage in high-octane activities such as skydiving and rock climbing, the feel-good endorphins sent to our brain receptors are often on par with the rush drug addicts experience.

This is why you have people engaging in life-defying stunts and sporting activities on a daily basis, regardless of their life being risked.

If you’ve reached the end of this article, then you might have even identified yourself as a possible addict. While many on this list are compulsive disorders instead of traditional addictions, they all share the same psychological and social traits, and should be met with appropriate treatment.