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10 Ways You Can Save Money While Still Having A Social Life

But the good news is you can still have a social life and save money at the same time… if you really try. Sure, you might not be able to attend the swankiest clubs and order tequila shots and double vodka cokes, but you can still enjoy a boogie and the odd drink or two if you incorporate some of these saving tips into your life.

Here are 10 ways you can do this.

1. Drink before you go out

Remember those legendary college dorm parties? The parties that cost you $7 because you’d buy a six pack of Bud and spend the rest of the night off your face, giddy in the knowledge that you were having a good time despite being broke.

Of course, being broke as a young graduate doesn’t have the same gloss, but the world isn’t doing young people any favors at this moment in time, so don’t let expensive drinks in bars and clubs wipe away your bank balance. Drink before you go out, and you’ll remain a social butterfly without succumbing to $12 tequila shots.

2. Avoid places with entry frees

It’s easy to start out the night with the intention of only drinking in places that don’t require an entry fee, but once midnight comes along, you’ll always have a friend who wants to pay a $20 entry fee for a nearby club.

But don’t be swayed! While you may have to end your night at 12 instead of 4, you’ll soon realize that completing a night at 12 as opposed to 4 isn’t the worst thing in the world because by going to a club and paying an entry fee, you’re more likely to want to get your money’s worth and drink more, which will lead to a crippling bank balance the following morning.

3. Walk more

Unless you happen to have the good fortune of living in proximity to your workplace, you probably have to pay a lot of money just to travel to work each month, so with that in mind, why would you want to continue paying loads of money for transport on the weekends?

Unless it’s rainy and cold, you should get in the habit of walking more, and if you’re going out, make sure the venues are local so you don’t have to fork out loads on transport.

4. Make sure you’re in charge of reservations

It may be a bit sneaky and selfish, but by being the one in charge of dinner dates with friends and family, you can choose the cheapest places that you know are affordable and don’t require hefty service fees.

Or, if you have a friend who really wants to go to an expensive restaurant try and steer them to a cheaper place that you know won’t cost you a week’s wages for a bowl of spaghetti.

5. Avoid festivals

We know, we know. We’re massive killjoys and may as well call ourselves Buzz Killington, but if you want to be serious about saving money, you won’t be doing yourself any favors by attending Glasto for the 10th consecutive year. Not only do tickets for major festivals cost upwards of $150, but you also have to factor in the over-inflated price of food and drink.

However, if you really want to attend at least one, then it’s best to be frugal, and limit yourself to home snacks and drinks.

6. Don’t be afraid to become a bargain hunter

We all like a good deal now and then, but if you want to save and still enjoy some remnants of a social life, then you need to be on the lookout for good deals continually.

In fact, there are many websites, such as bargaincrazy.com and makeuseof.com that have countless deals and discount codes that you can apply online as well as leading coupon websites like groupon.com, so make the most of them.

7. Stop buying overpriced coffee

Millenials are obsessed with coffee. They won’t pay $2 for a newspaper, or even $5 for a book, but they’ll happily spend the same or even more on a large-sized latte from Starbucks. And yes, you’re probably guilty of this too.

But don’t let your caffeine habit waste away your wages. If you really can’t live without it, brew it at home instead, and bring it into work in a flask. You’ll save around $20 a week if you do this, money which could go towards your next night out.

8. Scout the web and local community boards for free events

If you live in a big city, there’s always going to be something to do, and that includes free events and openings. There could be a free music event taking place in a nearby park, or an underground art gallery hosting a free exhibition.

Community boards in your local area are also likely to advertise these kinds of events, so why not make one of them your next social outing?

9. Throw house /dinner parties instead of going out

While you can save money by drinking at your house and then going out after, it can sometimes be more comfortable to stay in and throw a house party instead!

Yes, it means you have to undertake a massive cleanup the following morning, but if you have a trusted group of friends, then it can make for a nicer evening. You can drink in the comfort and safety or your own home, have more meaningful conversations as opposed to shouting in someone’s ear in a loud club and also invest in some nibbles and snacks rather than queuing at 4 am for an overpriced kebab.

You could even keep it classy and host a dinner party.

10. Become a freegan

A  portmanteau of the word “free” and “vegan”, freegans have built up a reputation over the years for eating the food big multi-national companies throw away after the sell-by date has expired.

It’s important to note that a sell-by date and an expiry date are different. An expiry date warns us when we can and can’t eat the food, while a sell-by date is intended for vendors and shop owners, namely multinationals, who can afford to throw away perfectly edible food to abide by food trading standards.

But instead of denoting it to the homeless, most dispose of it, so if you want to go to the extremes of a freegan, then you might find yourself with an entirely edible, free meal most nights, which in the grander scheme of things, will mean more money for that boozy night out. But yeah, you’ve got to really like your drink to go to these lengths.

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5 Tools To Help You Learn A Language Quicker!

1. Podcasts

Understanding the sounds of letters and words in any given language is vital to imprinting it on your own memory and getting to grips with the pronunciation. Often there are tapes and recordings that can sound overtly formal and strained in regular conversation or lack any sort of entertainment value that would help you remember what was being said.

Podcasts are a fun way of supplementing these tapes as they often offer up more informal conversation in a fun and easy to listen to manner. It is even better if you listen to podcasts specifically aimed at language learners and there are plenty of them out there.

 

2. Text To Speech Software

Another great tool for helping to be able to nail pronunciation is text to speech software. This allows you to write your own words, phrases, and conversations down and hear them pronounced properly.

There are a few of this software out there so make sure to make an informed decision before purchasing but they can be absolutely vital in learning to write and speak a language.

 

3. Music

We all know an irritatingly catchy tune that gets stuck in our head or a classic song that we love and know every word to and this is because the rhythm and beat of the music can hammer home what is being sung. Apply this to learning a language and it can help words and phrases stick in the memory. Find yourself a type of music you enjoy and start listening to artists who record in that language.

You can often find music videos with the lyrics online making reading along whilst you listen a great thing to do as well. You may even discover your new favorite band.

 

4. Learner Community Websites

Websites that gather people learning the same thing together can be vital because it offers the extra support of knowing you’re not the only person struggling with a certain thing. It also means that you can turn to others to find out their methods and ways of learning.

These sites often have their own tools and resources which you can use to further your knowledge and you can interact with real people through natural conversation.

 

5. Online Newspapers

The web is a great source for news in any language and almost every paper in the world has its own website or online presence so you shouldn’t have too much trouble trying to find one that’s right for you. By reading the paper and news in any given language you learn what words and phrases are being used at present.

It will improve your reading skills in that language and you can start out with photo captions and ads and then work your way up to short and then longer articles.

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7 Ways To Fully Utilize Your Free Time

1. Create A Time Journal

Spend a week detailing what you do with your time hour by hour, including work and what you do whilst there. This will help you keep track of when you exercise and do chores and other activities that need to be done but you don’t necessarily consider your free time. Once you can see how you structure your week, you can see how much time you have to yourself and when and if you can maybe rearrange your week or combine activities to make the most of what you’ve got and give you the opportunity to find the time for new things.

 

2. Limit Your Screen Time

There’s no problem with watching a boxset or going on social media but the problem is that they just swallow up whole chunks of time in one, large gulp and you just have another day of achieving very little. Limit your screen time and set yourself a certain period of time for watching shows or updating your profile so that you can then use the free time for more productive means.

 

3. Sort Your Life Out!

That wasn’t an insult but rather a solid piece of advice.Seriously, think about how much time you spend looking for keys or files, folders etc. Just have a place for everything and always put it back in that place and you will have so much more spare time. Organization is key!

 

4. Plan Chores Ahead

No one likes doing chores but if you plan ahead and give everything a set place then you can half tie by eliminating faff. In cooking, for example, if you cook all your meals on a single day and then freeze or store appropriately, you then save time deciding what to have every day. If you clean as you go and keep things neat and tidy for a few minutes a day it will save you hours of cleaning or sorting at a later date.

 

5. Set Boundaries

It is good to help others and make time for them but when it starts impacting on your own projects it can also be a curse. If you receive a phone call from a friend in need, it’s probably best to help them out but if you know it is just a catch up over the same old things, then it is okay to ask them to speak later. There’s nothing wrong with hanging a do not disturb sign on your office door if you need to do something. Focus on you for a bit and now your limits.

 

6. Limit Unnecessary Communications

Following on from the previous point, think of all the time you spend responding to texts and emails about pointless and inane things. If they are pointless and inane then just don’t bother, of course, it pays to be polite but sometimes you need to give yourself the space to get things done before responding to others. Explain that you had an important thing to deal with and most will understand.

 

7. Preparation

By preparing what you are doing for the next day, you save time procrastinating and trying to organize your thoughts. It is a good habit to set goals for the day ahead and thus know what you need to d before doing so freeing up time and also allowing you to know how to utilize before you’ve even stepped out of the door for the day.

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10 Ways You Can Overcome Unrequited Love

Well, more often than not, it’s because, love, amidst all the horrors and injustices in the world, is something that stays constant. It has allowed humans to navigate their way through life knowing they have someone there for them but when the love isn’t mutual it can feel like your world has fallen in on you.

But don’t let your dejection drown you in your own tears. Instead, let us take you through 10 ways you can overcome that dreaded feeling of unrequited love.

1. Unattainable Dreams Never Come True

Unrequited love is often discovered pretty early on in the initial do they, don’t they phase? In these cases, the game is almost alway up yet we like to believe what we want which gives us a lifeline of optimism that can keep us up all night and throw our concentration out of the window.

So what can be done? Well, it’s simple. If the person you like exhibits no signs of wanting to be involved in anything romantic, then it’s likely that they are being nice and not wanting to hurt your feelings.

But if you need the answer set out in stone, then be honest and ask them if they feel the same way. In most cases, you’ll find they won’t.

2. How Well Do You know Them?

More often than not, we’re in love with the idea of being in love, and as a consequence paint a perfect picture of that person that probably isn’t doing the real them justice, so you need to ask yourself what is it you like about them.

Is it their looks? Their comforting nature? Their career? It may even be their laugh. Whatever it is, you need to be sure. In most cases, you’ll be too busy painting a perfect picture of them that you’ll overlook bad habits and differences that further down the line could ruin the relationship.

3. Keep Yourself Busy

We know, we know. Easier said than done, right? Yes, when we like or love someone and realize the feeling isn’t mutual we have a tendency to feel sorry for ourselves and put everything to one side.

In fact, we usually wonder what it would be like to have the privilege of calling them our partner, and envy those who are fortunate enough to have found romantic love. Blissful imaginations, however, serve only one purpose: heartache. So don’t let one person dictate and control your life.

Instead, fill the void with hobbies and interests. Better yet, if you’re a fan of fitness get yourself in the gym. Not only will you be receiving your fair share of endorphins but you’ll also be keeping yourself in tip-top shape and reminding yourself that you’re a catch and that some day you’re going to make another person incredibly lucky.

4. Date and Enjoy Being Single

The joys of dating are endless, and if you live in a big city, it’s even better. Of course, you can be spoiled for choice considering the recent proliferation of dating apps, and it can sometimes promote a culture where the grass will always be greener.

What it does do better than anything else, however, is add authenticity to the truism that there is someone out there for everybody. You may not find that perfect match straight away, but if you have fun and meet an array of interesting people you’ll quickly relish your independence.

5. Focus on Yourself

Our goals can often be our driving force in life. Without them, we have little fuel to move forward. Said fuel can also be used up in a relationship. Why? Because we can get content, and that’s not always good. So if you are still feeling the burn of not being loved back then see it as a blessing in disguise and one where you can focus on being anything you want to be without having to be dependent on another person’s love.

Admittedly, you can still focus on yourself and be in a relationship, but it’s much harder. So don’t be too down in the dumps if they didn’t want the same thing. Be happy that you can get back to the drawing board and continue on an upward trajectory where all your dreams have the potential of coming true.

6. Learn to Love Unconditionally

In extreme cases, the love people have for another is so strong that it goes beyond a mere fondness or infatuation and if you feel compelled to love this person regardless of his/her wants, then you may want to love them unconditionally.

It may sound sad, but more often than not we discount our love for someone the moment it isn’t mutual and try our best to shake it, and if you know you will never stop loving them then you should learn to feel happy for them no matter who they are or aren’t with.

That way, there’s no sense of loss as you can move on knowing that they are happy with their decision and that one day they’ll make someone else the luckiest person in the world.

7. Respect The Reasons Behind The Person’s Decision 

Everyone has a life they must lead, and to accommodate someone else isn’t easy. Think about it. How big a commitment would it be to allow anyone into your life when you haven’t time? Or if you’ve only just broken up with someone else? Or, if you simply don’t feel strongly enough to have romantic feelings towards them?

In short, what goes around comes around, and there have probably been times when you’ve had to brush aside someone else’s attraction as you didn’t feel the same. You can’t always have it your way, so take account of their feelings and respect their decision.

8. Your Happiness Shouldn’t Be Dependent On Someone Else 

No matter how many times people tell you this, there’s a reason: it’s true. How many times have we fallen in love only to realize that the time invested in the relationship ended in nothing but sorrow and heartbreak?

We know the feeling of love is arguably the greatest feeling of all, but like with anything in life, the euphoria will eventually fade and get replaced with contentment, and if you weren’t already confident in your skin, you certainly wouldn’t be further down the relationship.

Not even a dream guy/girl can make you love yourself; it has to come from within. So get acquainted with the things that make you wonderful. Celebrate yourself and learn to be in a relationship with all things good about you and only you. You don’t need to turn into a narcissist, but a little bit of self-confidence never hurt anyone.

9. Allow Yourself To Grieve 

Grieve all you want. In fact, grieve until your tears become nothing but dry smudges on your skin. Just don’t force yourself to continue being depressed and aimless. It’s hard, we know.  You finally found someone who makes even the most prepossessing of supermodels appear average and you’re now contemplating having to feel depressed for the next few months.

What’s more, every potential dating prospect will probably fall short. And you’ll likely keep imaging a life with them instead of the person across the table from you- no matter how well-suited you are to them. So give it time. In many ways, the only thing to fill the void left from such a situation is time itself. Just don’t let your grief swallow you up before it’s too late.

10. Romantic Media Never Fills The Void

Even if you’re a guy, it’s tempting to aid your self-loathing by listening to sad songs or watching a romantic movie due to 21-st century media’s fascination with romantic love. Yet many things in life are equally as important. Like friendship, careers, passions, kindness, laughter and still, we forget about this stuff because we think that having a partner is the best thing in the world.

So avoid the next rom-com at all costs. Watch something uplifting instead. You may even find yourself smiling; even if it is an Adam Sandler movie you’re watching.

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22 Foods That Often Trigger Migraines

However, nutritionists and doctors are usually in agreement that migraine sufferers can significantly reduce the likelihood of further attacks simply by eradicating certain foods from their diet. Here are 22 such foods that many medical professionals believe are migraine triggers.

1. Processed Meats

While red meat is known to increase the likelihood of a range of cancers, red meats are also packed full of tyramine, a known migraine-inducing chemical. As Susan Buckley, nutrition manager at South Denver Cardiology Associates in Littleton, Colorado explains, ““Generally, the longer a high-protein food ages, the greater the tyramine content.”

2. Olives

Just like with red meats, olives are another food laden in tyramine.

3. Caffeine

Caffeine is a substance 99.% of the world consumes yet few know of its migraine side-effects. For instance, too many trips to Starbucks can spawn migraines if you’re new to drinking caffeine while more seasoned drinkers can also suffer from migraines if they attempt to decrease their consumption.

4. Dried Fruits

Often hailed as ‘health foods’, the head can often take a battering in the form of a blistering migraine if dried fruits are regularly consumed due to the high-level of sulphite.

5. Alcohol 

This may be a no-brainer, but unlike a hangover, a migraine-hangover combo is far worse. The reason migraines often occur after drinking is due to the body turning the alcohol into acetate, which many doctors believe leads to migraines. Spirits like whisky and bourbon are thought to be the worst triggers although the research isn’t conclusive.

6. Soda

Aspartame is used as an artificial sweetener for many fizzy drinks. Because of this, health professionals have long labelled sodas no-go drinks for migraine sufferers.

7. Pizza

This may be a hard one to stomach (excuse the pun), but the yeast in the crust and tyramine in any potential meat toppings can create a vomit-inducing migraine.

8. Bread

Another commonly consumed food that causes migraines is bread, due primarily to the occurring chemical called coumarin found in yeast.

9. Hot Dogs

As a red meat. Hot dogs are full of tyramine while the preservative-laden sauces won’t help, either.

10. Candy

Bright coloured candy can play havoc with your head due to the additives (E Numbers) used to brighten and make the food appear more attractive to consumers.

This applies more to children than adults, however, due to their organs being less adept at removing certain toxins from the body that such additives create.

11. Bacon

Just like with hot dogs, the tyramine and preservatives in bacon are also known migraine culprits although it’s worth noting at this stage that not all migraine sufferers are affected by tyramine.

12. Chilli peppers

Chilli peppers aren’t just known for burning your tongue- they can also cause rip-roaring migraines. In fact, they are one of the most commonly known triggers and are even used in research when analysing migraines.

13. Beans

If you’re prone to migraines, it’s perhaps best to exclude beans from your next burrito order. After all, all beans contain tannins which can be a migraine- trigger for some.

14. Aged cheeses

Aged cheeses are full of tyramine and as we’ve stated before, are best to be avoided if your migraines are regular occurrences.

15. Sour Cream  

Sour cream is a dip we all love, but you may want to swap to salsa if your migraines are perpetual due to the choline.

16. Whole Milk

Choline is also found in whole-fat milk, so it’s better for sufferers to purchase semi or fully skimmed milk as an alternative.

17. Any MSG foods  

MSG, an abbreviation of Monosodium Glutamate is a flavour enhancer used by many fast food joints, and in recent years doctors have speculated it to be a migraine trigger.

18. Avocados

While avocados are healthy sources of protein, they’re a strict no-no for migraine sufferers due to their tyramine properties.

19. Bananas

As well as tyramine, histamine is another compound found in this popular fruit which can sometimes cause significant pains around the cranium.

20. Red plums 

Red plums, while often only consumed in the summer are another fruit with high levels of tyramine.

21. Vinegar

Yes, you guessed it, the seemingly ubiquitous compound tyramine is also found in balsamic vinegar although white vinegar is usually safe as it contains no tyramine.

22. Skipping meals

And finally, the most important thing to remember is that while there are plenty of foods to avoid, sticking to a correct eating routine is just as vital. Irregular eating patterns are never good for migraine sufferers, and a full stomach is often the best way to combat the early stages of a migraine.

For guidance and further reading about the best foods to eat, we recommend you read Karren Appold’s article in Today’s Dietitian entitled, Migraine Headaches — Here’s How to Identify Food Triggers and Reduce Debilitating Symptom.’

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10 Perfect Conversation Starters For a First Date

Yes, It can be mentally exhausting going on a date; let alone spending hours arranging one. It’s a risk, and a step outside the much-loved comfort zone.

So in the interests of all our readers still looking for that special someone, we’ve compiled ten natural conversation starters that are all but guaranteed to start a flowing (and hopefully interesting) conversation.

1. Good day?

Let’s start with the basics. Starting a conversation about a cliched topic such as the weather is, of course, a no-no.

It already suggests you’re devoid of ideas and screams unease and a lack of confidence. But playing it safe with a genuine interest in their day allows the conversation to grow organically.

2. The traffic wasn’t too bad, was it?

Dependent on their mode of transportation, asking your date if the traffic was bad or if the train was busy isn’t the worst conversation starter in the world so long as it’s followed up with something interesting.

You could even follow the question up with a funny story about how your face got squashed on the train on the way to work.

3. You look really nice

While best served in moderation, complementing someone (especially women) on a first date shows you appreciate the effort they’ve made while also making it clear you find them attractive.

However, any saccharine language is usually ill-advised. Telling someone they look ‘stunningly beautiful’ or ‘dazzlingly pretty,’ for instance,  is unnecessary and can give off an air of desperation.

4. Any awkward date stories?

After you’ve said hello and found some sought of natural rhythm to the conversation, you can break the ice by asking them if they have any funny date stories they’d like to share.

It can offer light relief to the initial unease of meeting a stranger, and also gives one another a glimpse at their sense of humor.

5. Favourite book/movie of all time?

The wonder of creative entertainment serves billions, not only you, which means conversations around books and shows can quite easily go in an upward direction.

For instance, if you’ve just finished watching an episode of Game of Thrones, ask them about it! Chances are they’ll like it too. It may sound rather generic, but once you have a similar interest, you’ll hopefully feel more at ease.

6. Dogs or cats?

This is always a favorite question. Something along the lines of, “Okay, first things first: cats or dogs?” can quite easily proliferate into a fun and impassioned conversation about likes and dislikes.

You could even ask them if they like cheese….

7. What are you looking for in a relationship?

It may seem like a direct and intimidating question, but with time, it’s necessary for both parties.

Asked correctly, with interest and lightness, it can offer an insight into how that person is, which could save you a lot of time and money.

8. What’s your dream?

Asking someone about their dreams and ambitions is a great way to know someone and gauge how they are in general. You want to know as much as you can on a first date, and one thing we as humans hold dearest is the possibility of our dreams coming true.

So ask! Who knows? Their dreams might even align with yours.

9. What kind of music do you listen to?

Even if you’re not the biggest music aficionado, chances are you probably have a similar playlist with at least one person you date.

So ask them what they think of popular artists like Taylor Swift and Justin Bieber. Again, these are light-hearted questions that can lead to so much more.

10. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be? 

Everyone likes to envisage their ideal location. It offers escape and a chance to romance wistfully about future happenings. So ask! While daunting, a date is an escape from the mundanity of everyday life, so ask them questions associated with dreams and exotic places.

Chances are you’ll then be able to ask follow-up questions. Have you been before? What is it you like about such climates? Would you ever live there?

Remember, a conversation starter is intended to spawn more interesting and in-depth discussions. So take these questions as a starting point for something special. 

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What Women Want: 10 Things Every Man Should Know But Doesn’t

What you need to do is be more in-tune with their wants and requirements. It sounds relatively simple and highly cliched, but as a recent Gallup poll showed, 68% of American men are still single. And even in an age of Tinder and online dating, those are the kind of statistics that would leave even the most ardent of Leonardo DiCaprio-wannabe womanizers worried.

So without further ado, and to hopefully put an end to such miserable statistics, we at Lifehack Lane thought we’d scour the minds of millions of women across the web and offer 10 simple tips that could help you in your quest for love.

1. Chivalry isn’t dead

Whatever you think about feminism and its role in modern-day society, opening the door for your lady friend doesn’t mean you’re going against the notion of female empowerment- far from it. In fact, chivalrous gestures will make you appear respectful, even if you do feel like you’re re-enacting scenes from a Jane Austin novel.

2. Taking care of your appearance isn’t a bad thing

While many guys live their lives in the gym and go home to protein shakes besides their beds telling them how beautiful they are, many men are put off by that image and refuse to be anything but clean-cut. And that’s a great shame as most women will tell you that you don’t need to be a chiselled beefcake to win their hearts. All you need to do is to put in a little bit of effort- and that includes dressing up.

3. Compassion goes a long way

Nobody likes someone who has a heart of stone. Sure, they may at first come across as mysterious and even slightly cool, but if you aren’t willing to sympathise with others you’ll come across as nasty and perhaps even a tad evil.

4. Confidence can be a deal-breaker

Confidence is everything. And if a guy has it in abundance, he’s likely to get a whole lot more attention- regardless of how he looks. And just knowing a woman has someone masculine and confident by her side can make her feel significantly safer.

Still, confidence can quickly turn into arrogance, and that’s what men need to realise. Be proud of your achievements and unwavering ability to converse with all kinds of woman; just don’t start showboating about how great you are in bed.

5. Listen

Admittedly, everyone has heard this before. Listening is everything and blah blah blah. But you’d be lying if you said you’ve listened to every word your ex-partners or one-night stands have said. It can be so easy to be caught up in our minds that we so often pretend to listen when in reality the woman will know right away if you’re taking everything in..

6. Romance is never outdated

Like with chivalry, writing a love letter or doing something sweet and heartfelt will never hurt. Sure, your friends might make fun of you while others may even call you a sentimental human stack of cheese that even Nicholas Sparks wouldn’t touch. But hey, when you really like someone guys, woman want to know that.

7. The little things count

Forgetting birthdays, anniversaries and even their cat’s name can spell trouble. It may sound over-the-top, but these things matter A LOT.

8. Always offer to pay on a first date

If you’ve only just met her, and you decide to go for a meal, then it might be a good idea if you offer to pay. Notice the word ‘offer’. By offering, you’re also giving the woman an opportunity to pay, which is just as important in the long run. If they offer to pay great, then you know they’re a keeper, but still, collect the bill. No matter what modern-day values dictate, it’s been ingrained into our consciences that man must pay, and there’s no point dispelling that myth.

9. Prioritise

All great love requires great sacrifice, and prioritising certain events for your love interest/ admirer is one of the best ways to show you’re serious about them. You might feel guilty for telling the guys you can’t catch the game, but remember the reason for saying no. You have a lovely person in your life, and if they were in your position they would probably do the same. Woman prioritise just as much, and if you aren’t prepared to follow suit, they’ll probably lose interest.

10. Keep it real

If you think you’re into someone, how do you know if it’s love or merely infatuation? Do you want to be in bed with them when you could be out with your friends talking to every Christina and Mary in the state? If you know, then the woman will notice, just like if you’re unsure. So ask yourself this: If I see this woman more than once, will I still want to see other people? If the answer is yes, then there’s no point wasting your time, let alone theirs.

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10 Ways To Lose Weight Without Ever Going To The Gym

The good news, however, is that you can gain the same benefits as any regular gym-goer without ever setting foot in one. Here are ten simple ways.

1. Make sleep your best friend

It can be hard to turn in early when you really want to read another chapter of that page-turning novel or tune into another spellbinding episode of Game of Thrones, but research shows that a lack of sleep is correlated with an increase in weight.

In fact, Michael Breus, PhD and author of The Sleep Doctor’s Diet Plan: Lose Weight Through Better Sleep, believes the loss of only 30 minutes sleep can lead to a fluctuation in weight due to an increase in the stress hormone, cortisol, which can cause a person’s appetite to rocket.

2. Eat foods high in protein and rich in fibre

Carbohydrates are great energy boosters but are slow to digest. Protein, on the other hand. is practically fat-free and not only promotes muscle growth but also keeps you full and away from gorging on weight gaining foods.

Even a juicy burger or a grilled kebab is a better option than carb-heavy foods such as pizza and pasta. The fibre found in fruits is also another great option due to its ability to speed up your digestive system.

3. Don’t let your body get too hungry

While your weight may be high because of excessive eating, eating too little just to save yourself for a feast later can be much worse.

In fact, your blood levels will lower if you do so and your body will go into starvation mode, meaning it will slow the metabolism down for as long as it can to preserve every ounce of fat.

4. Always keep on the move

If you don’t want to burn those calories off in the gym, then you’re going to have to be prepared to do a whole lot of walking. It could just involve choosing to take the stairs instead of the elevator. Or, if you work in an office, make sure you at least stand up and walk around once every two hours. If you want to buy some milk in town, walk it. These are small changes but in time, you’ll be surprised how bigger change they’ll bring to your body.

5. Make sure portions aren’t excessive 

It may be somewhat obvious, but a big portion for one person might be tiny for another.

To avoid confusion, make sure you take out snacks from the bag and put them onto a plate so you can visually see how much you’re consuming. Buying smaller plates will help with this.

6. Eat a piece of dark chocolate for desert 

While dark chocolate can taste incredibly bitter, your digestive system will soon get used to it.

So instead of raiding the cookie jar, try eating a bar of dark chocolate after every meal. The healthy fats contained in dark chocolate have been known to fasten the metabolism.

7. Get into the habit of drinking at least 2 litres of water a day

Just one whole glass of water can make you feel instantly refreshed and even fill you up for a few hours, preventing your body from overindulging in snacks.

8, Swap certain condiments and dressings

While salads are healthy options, the dressings drizzled on them can be quite the opposite.

So instead of a creamy dressing, which will no doubt be laden with carbohydrates and sugars, go for a vinaigrette or lemon oil option.

9. Avoid certain drinks

Many diet followers usually focus on foods without giving much thought to the drinks they are consuming. A glass of wine, for instance, contains more calories than most beers, while a cheeky soda now and then should be out of the question. Water, water, water is the way forward.

And for those needing a bit of help at weaning their way off sugary drinks, try flavoured waters.

10. Workout at home

Okay, so you probably weren’t expecting this one. But don’t despair!

If you invest in just a few simple dumbells and an abdominal roller, you can do many exercises within the comforts of your home. Even if it’s for only 20 mins two times a week, your body will begin to tone. After all, when losing weight, no diet comes close to the physical benefits that come from regular exercise.

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10 Things You Should Never do After Turning 25

Well, while there are no rules for adulthood, most twenty-somethings have found the transition harder in recent years, but by making a few changes to your life, it needn’t be so bad. So stick around and let Lifehack Lane take you through ten things every quarter centurion should stop doing.

1. Not caring about your appearance

When you’re in High School and College, you practically have free reign to wear whatever feels most comfortable. If you want to wear a bright red shirt with various curse words printed on the front, then you’ll probably get away with it and be deemed, “cool” and “out there”.

But if you’re still going weeks without shaving, and haven’t bothered to shower in the last week, then you’ll find it harder than others to get employed. You don’t have to become a vain and ardent gym goer, but knowing when to look clean and presentable every once in a while is a skill many young people struggle with.

2. Blaming your parents for everything 

Increasing numbers of young people are now moving in with their parents after college. Or in Lena Dunham’s case in the much-loved HBO series, ‘Girls’, living off the bank of mum and dad. So you might be forgiven for blaming your plight on your parent/s. It could be resentment at the fact that your generation has it much harder than there’s, or that your life could have been so much better if they invested more money in your private tennis lessons.

However, look at yourself, and question what it is that you could do to move your life forward.

3. Waking up late

We all love a good lie in and having to wake up a 7 AM every morning can feel akin to being doused in buckets of cold water. But what can you do about it? Well, it’s simple… Get yourself a better nighttime routine. Do you really need to watch that late night movie that goes until 2.30 AM?

Are you really going to benefit from rushing out the door each morning with unkempt hair instead of waking up an hour earlier and giving yourself a bit of time to prepare for the morning ahead? These are small but simple adjustments, and with time, you’ll get used to it.

4. Wasting time on your phone and laptop

Look up, instead of down. There’s a whole world out there! You’re allowed to have a social media presence and swipe right on Tinder once in a while, but doing it every waking second and not being able to do anything else will do your development no good.

Your attention span will reduce, and you’ll struggle to sit still. So learn to be without technology for a good few hours each day. That way, you’ll see the importance of being productive and not wasting away your hours on a plethora of pixels.

5. Being a lazy slob

This can encompass a wide variety of traits. For some, it might be applied in the literal sense. However, many forms of laziness go undetected.

For some, that might be doing everything last minute. For others, you might go to the gym or clean the house in the knowledge that you’ll have little time to pursue that dream you’ve always wanted to be realised because you’re not confident enough in your ability to make it come true. So rid putting important tasks and dreams off and instead tackle them head on and you might find yourself feeling more fulfilled.

6. Pleasing others all the time

This isn’t the worse thing in the world. If anything, people pleasing is a sign of a caring and thoughtful person. However, it can lead to feelings of insecurity over whether you said the right thing or not. The solution? Let go of others’ happiness.

You’re a nice person, and all you can do is be yourself so don’t go out of your way to show people that. They’ll see it instantly, and you’ll feel less stressed knowing that making others happy doesn’t need to come from any outlandish gesture.

7. Caring what others think

Like people pleasing, valuing your life in terms of the other peoples’ opinions is often the result of underlying insecurities and fears. Where you bullied at school because of your appearance? Are you someone who needs the vindication and attraction from others to feel pretty?

These are common reasons, and while those may not directly apply to you, they can leave us feeling pretty drained and tired from trying all the time. So learn to let go, and love yourself rather than waiting to hear it from others.

8. Dating unsuitable people

It’s no laughing matter, and while you may laugh at the crazy nights and drunken antics shared with previous girlfriends/boyfriends, you can easily forget the times they broke your heart. Or the arguments that took centre stage, because aside from the intimacy and gushing at their desirable looks, you probably had little in common.

So put your dating priorities into more important traits and you’ll find yourself ending up with someone a lot more suitable.

9. Overusing slang

Idiomatic language can be cool and endearing and is often used when in the company of close friends and family. Still, if you continue to use said language, it will creep into all situations- including professional ones.

After all, the last thing you want to say in an interview is, “This job opportunity is sick”….

10. Complaining about life

Life isn’t a montage of roses and petals. It’s hard, and whether you’re living in a beachside villa or a block of high-rise flats, the same problems will still arise.

Family bereavement. Personal and professional rejection. Self-doubt. It’s a standard life cycle, but one which can be made a whole lot worse if you take what you have for granted.

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5 Life Lessons Everyone Should Be Taught

With that in mind, here are 5 simple life lessons that can bring about a sound and healthy mind.

1. You are never too old

When we age, we tend to prioritise the needs of others, whether that be our children, parents, marriage etc.

But while these things are all crucial to living a happy life, it can often mean letting go of your hobbies and dreams. So don’t let commitments stifle your dreams.

Whether you’re an 80-year old who always dreamed of writing a novel, or a 30-year old mother wishing to go back to school, it is never too late.

2. Nothing is impossible

Your thoughts create realities. And that’s a proven fact. Why? Because at one time or other, all these multi-national companies, all-star athletes and inspiring political leaders had nothing but their imagination. And within that imagination came a dream they went out and achieved. It would be wrong, of course, to suggests that all dreams come true, but that’s not to say that your goals won’t.

You may never play alongside Kevin Durant in the NBA, but you could still achieve your dream of becoming a coder for Facebook. After all, if you don’t try, you’ll never get it. Being level-headed is essential, but having no dreams at all can be soul-destroying.

3. Help yourself by helping others

It’s easy to get wrapped up in our own problems. Few have it easy, and chances are you’ll feel that giving your time to someone else sounds overwhelming.

But even taking half an hour out of your day- or even week- to do a good deed, whether that’s volunteering at a soup kitchen or playing games with the elderly at the nearby care home can do wonders to not just them but you too. You’ll see people who are vulnerable, and your empathy will take effect, making you realise that life is short and precious.

4. Not everyone will like you

It’s a truth that even the most likeable people will encounter. People are different, and no matter how gentle and humble you are, others may look at you in a different light. And that’s okay. So long as you believe in yourself and are happy with who you are, then that should be enough.

Nobody’s perfect, but everyone can be kind, which leads nicely onto our final point.

5. Nobody is perfect, but that doesn’t mean you can’t try and be the best possible version of yourself

We focus less on ourselves and more on those who we believe are more desirable. We get intimidated and allow self-doubt to tell us that we should leave our dreams to those more likely to succeed. “Who am I kidding?” many a person has probably bellowed.

So until you realise no dream is stupid, or no part of you is ugly or inadequate, then you’ll never feel satisfied. You’ll never attain perfection, but if you learn to love yourself and go for every opportunity, you’ll feel amazing inside, and your life will open up in ways you never thought possible.